So often, conversations between males center around non-threatening topics like sports, weather, cars, hobbies, and so forth. Males typically are protective of their feelings and emotions. They believe that if they let someone see their “underside,” they will be judged as weak or insecure. So the typical response to “How are you doing?” is “I’m fine, how are you?”
Christ was tender, understanding, communicative, and loving. It is interesting that Scripture doesn’t portray Christ as weak, effeminate, or without authority. On the contrary, a man who would toss tables around in the temple, chase people with a whip, rebuke storms, and face Satan head-on is a courageous and strong man.
David and Jonathan modeled for us the ultimate friendship. Each knew that the other had his back. They encouraged the best in each other. Even when things seemed desperate, the friend was there to provide hope and support.
We need to pray for and find men who can help us become the best friends, husbands, fathers, and grandparents we were created to be. Through spiritual mentoring, wise counsel, spoken word, affirmation, and even at times rebuke and correction, we need responsive guidance and support to live a Christ-like life.
We need men who will not only help point us to the future but also be our comrade-in-arms by supporting our journey.
Once again, the church has a role in helping men make these connections. By providing safe and friendly environments, we can create an atmosphere and church culture where men can cultivate special friendships. As we previously discussed, opportunities like men’s breakfasts, affinity groups, hubs, and Bible study groups are perfect environments to cultivate a spirit of transparency, trust, and respect that lead people to becoming vulnerable and build significant friendships.
Men’s Ministry Catalyst coaches churches in forming just such an environment. We believe a church that encourages godly friendships will be stronger, more mature, and ready to extend their fellowship to each one God brings their way.
Taken from Building a Ministry of Spiritual Mentors, by Jim Grassi