Act Like Men

Men’s Leadership Podcast

#59: 52 Things Wives Want from Their Husband – Featuring Jay Payleitner

Episode 59 cover, guest Jay Payleitner
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May 30, 2024

Show Notes

This is one of the most encouraging podcasts we have been privileged to bring forward. Our guest is very funny as he brings forward tremendous wisdom and truth about our marriage relationship. You will laugh, poke fun at yourself, and be motivated to be the husband your wife needs. I recommend his book on this topic and any of his books full of bite-size wisdom.

About our guest:

After a decade of writing advertising for airlines and beer, Jay Payleitner followed God’s clear call to serve as a freelance producer for thousands of radio broadcasts for Chuck Colson, Josh McDowell,, Heritage Foundation, and Voice of the Martyrs. Those relationships led to Jay becoming a national speaker and best-selling author of 30+ books including the bestselling 52 Things Kids Need from a Dad, Hooray for Grandparents!, What If God Wrote Your Bucket List? and 52 Things Wives Need from Their Husbands. Jay’s books have been translated into ten languages and sold more than 3/4 million copies. He has been a guest multiple times on The Harvest Show, Chris Fabry Live, and Focus on the Family. Jay and his wife, Rita, live near Chicago, where they raised great five kids, loved on ten foster babies, and are cherishing grandparenthood.

Here are a few of the points we discuss in this episode:

  1. No one knows your wife better than you. You know before you say something how she is going to react.
  2. You know what your wife likes. If you give your wife what she likes, it gives me joy as well.
  3. Nagging Prevention: Ask your wife if this is okay. This applies to many situations.
  4. Plan for your entry into the house. Give some updates on your day – ask if there is anything you need me to do.
  5. Pray you hit bottom – when you do your marriage has the opportunity to become more than it ever would be otherwise.
  6. I think we need to kiss more and kiss better. Without sex in your mind.

Men, we want to do well with our wives. Knowing what they want, and diligently working to meet their needs at the same time has a magical way of meeting our own needs.

Today – we pray for your marriage and for the generations who follow you well thanks to you men who make it a mission to understand what your wife wants and working to do just that.

To reach Jay Payleitner to have him speak with your men, or any of his books, including the one we talked through today: 52 Things Wives Want From Their Husband, go to:


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About Wendell Morton

Rev. Morton graduated from Western Evangelical Seminary with a BA in Religious Education and a Master of Counseling Psychology, Rev. Morton was in full-time ministry for 17 years with both small and large churches. He spent four of those ministry years with Promise Keepers. He was the the US representative to PK Canada – serving on the PK Canada Board.

Wendell also spent 23 years in Corporate America. He built and led sales teams that worked with very small businesses and other groups that worked with Fortune 500 companies. He is gifted at helping identifying the next generation of leaders as well as helping those around him being successful.

Rev. Morton has a passion to help pastors and church leaders build growing churches. Having men come alongside the vision of the pastor, build a dynamic team, create a plan, and execute the model of “each one brings one” has been proven effective for more than 2,000 years. This approach is a great way for every local church in North America to grow while helping men better understand biblical manhood.

About Dale Eudy

As an advocate for ministry to men, Dale Eudy brings a combined background of leadership skills developed in the marketplace along with senior leadership experience in the Church.

Following military service, Dale earned his undergraduate degree and gained valuable systems and operations experience working for two prominent Fortune 50 companies. Responding to God’s leading in his life to focus on leaders in the body of Christ, he went on to complete seminary and served as a pastor for 16 years in a large church in the Denver area and as a denominational leader at the regional and national levels. With his background, Dale knows the heartbeat of the local church.

Dale’s passion is the discipleship (spiritual reproduction) of men. That passion is what drew him to partner with Men’s Ministry Catalyst. In his words, “The simple call of Jesus to follow him and to make fishers of men is the most foundational call in my life.” Using his spiritual gifts of leadership and exhortation, Dale is a great coach and cheerleader for those involved in the arenas of life.

Dale and his wife Kathy live in Highlands Ranch, Colorado and serve their home church, Cherry Hills Community Church. They have two grown children and a caring extended family.