Act Like Men

Men’s Leadership Podcast

#57: Forgiveness: How Do We Get Out of the Cage of Unforgiveness – Guest Jay Cookingham

Episode cover, with special Guest Jay Cookingham
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May 2, 2024

Show Notes

Jay Cookingham in his book entitled Uncaged – Living a Life of Freedom says “Forgiveness has enabled me to live the life God has intended for me, which is so much more than being “saved”. It is a calling to become someone. I can become the husband, the father, the brother, the son, and the man God designed to be because I am forgiven”.

Take time to listen to Jay’s story of God’s grace and man’s depravity. The great news is that God’s grace is greater than any cage in which you may find yourself.

Some key points are:

  • The most powerful cages are the ones where you don’t even know you are locked up.
  • The first one uncaged is always the one who forgives.
  • Forgiveness is necessary for freedom.

What do we know about forgiveness? Jay lists 14 things about forgiveness that show how important. Here are just 5 of his key points:

  • Forgiveness is a decision of our will.
  • Forgiveness is not denial.
  • Forgiveness does not mean being a doormat.
  • Forgiveness does not require the one who hurt you to be involved.
  • Forgiveness is not a lack of anger.
  • And so many more…

Where do we go from here?

  • If you are in denial about your cage – call it what it is so God can help you get out of the cage.
  • Recognize that any shame you carry is a trick of the enemy to keep you caged.
  • Who do I know who will have my back and help me walk through forgiveness?
  • This is not a one-and-done process. Forgiveness from God to us is daily – forgiveness from us to others is also daily.

To reach Jay Cookingham or any of his books, including the one we talked through today: Uncaged Living a Life of Freedom resources, go to:


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About Wendell Morton

Rev. Morton graduated from Western Evangelical Seminary with a BA in Religious Education and a Master of Counseling Psychology, Rev. Morton was in full-time ministry for 17 years with both small and large churches. He spent four of those ministry years with Promise Keepers. He was the the US representative to PK Canada – serving on the PK Canada Board.

Wendell also spent 23 years in Corporate America. He built and led sales teams that worked with very small businesses and other groups that worked with Fortune 500 companies. He is gifted at helping identifying the next generation of leaders as well as helping those around him being successful.

Rev. Morton has a passion to help pastors and church leaders build growing churches. Having men come alongside the vision of the pastor, build a dynamic team, create a plan, and execute the model of “each one brings one” has been proven effective for more than 2,000 years. This approach is a great way for every local church in North America to grow while helping men better understand biblical manhood.

About Dale Eudy

As an advocate for ministry to men, Dale Eudy brings a combined background of leadership skills developed in the marketplace along with senior leadership experience in the Church.

Following military service, Dale earned his undergraduate degree and gained valuable systems and operations experience working for two prominent Fortune 50 companies. Responding to God’s leading in his life to focus on leaders in the body of Christ, he went on to complete seminary and served as a pastor for 16 years in a large church in the Denver area and as a denominational leader at the regional and national levels. With his background, Dale knows the heartbeat of the local church.

Dale’s passion is the discipleship (spiritual reproduction) of men. That passion is what drew him to partner with Men’s Ministry Catalyst. In his words, “The simple call of Jesus to follow him and to make fishers of men is the most foundational call in my life.” Using his spiritual gifts of leadership and exhortation, Dale is a great coach and cheerleader for those involved in the arenas of life.

Dale and his wife Kathy live in Highlands Ranch, Colorado and serve their home church, Cherry Hills Community Church. They have two grown children and a caring extended family.