Act Like Men
Men’s Leadership Podcast
#50: Dealing with Compulsive Behaviors – Ft. Craig Cato
A compulsive behavior is an action that a person feels “compelled” or driven to do over and over again. While these compulsive actions may appear to be irrational or pointless, and may even result in negative consequences, the individual experiencing the compulsion feels unable to stop him or herself.
In today’s episode, Craig Kato speaks to triggers for acting out on compulsive behaviors and three safeguards to help move forward.
Triggers that happen before your compulsive behavior:
- Loneliness – when home alone or when traveling alone.
- Boredom – it is what I do when I have nothing else to do.
- Satan convinces men that porn is better than sex outside of marriage for single men or better than an affair for married men.
- Alcohol – reduces our ability to control urges.
- Stress – porn, and masturbation can reset the brain temporarily and reduce the feeling of stress, however, for a Christian man guilt and shame follow.
- Not controlling sexual thoughts. Testosterone is a powerful hormone. It is a short trip from thoughts to behavior resulting in habits.
- Set Boundaries – establish clear guidelines while you are not being tempted.
- Establish Hedges – these are barriers to actually going over the edge and stepping into a compulsive behavior.
- Create consequences – these are self-imposed consequences should you blow past your barriers and your hedges. What happens to you when you give in to compulsive behavior? This is not what happens when you get caught, but what happens when you step over the line.
Three Questions to ask yourself:
- What compulsive behavior is in my life that impacts me negatively?
- What boundaries, hedges, and consequences do I need to put in place to get victory today?
- Who is in my life who can provide the accountability I need to move forward?
To reach Craig Cato: CCato@reallifeministries.com
About Wendell Morton
Rev. Morton graduated from Western Evangelical Seminary with a BA in Religious Education and a Master of Counseling Psychology, Rev. Morton was in full-time ministry for 17 years with both small and large churches. He spent four of those ministry years with Promise Keepers. He was the the US representative to PK Canada – serving on the PK Canada Board.
Wendell also spent 23 years in Corporate America. He built and led sales teams that worked with very small businesses and other groups that worked with Fortune 500 companies. He is gifted at helping identifying the next generation of leaders as well as helping those around him being successful.
Rev. Morton has a passion to help pastors and church leaders build growing churches. Having men come alongside the vision of the pastor, build a dynamic team, create a plan, and execute the model of “each one brings one” has been proven effective for more than 2,000 years. This approach is a great way for every local church in North America to grow while helping men better understand biblical manhood.
About Dale Eudy
As an advocate for ministry to men, Dale Eudy brings a combined background of leadership skills developed in the marketplace along with senior leadership experience in the Church.
Following military service, Dale earned his undergraduate degree and gained valuable systems and operations experience working for two prominent Fortune 50 companies. Responding to God’s leading in his life to focus on leaders in the body of Christ, he went on to complete seminary and served as a pastor for 16 years in a large church in the Denver area and as a denominational leader at the regional and national levels. With his background, Dale knows the heartbeat of the local church.
Dale’s passion is the discipleship (spiritual reproduction) of men. That passion is what drew him to partner with Men’s Ministry Catalyst. In his words, “The simple call of Jesus to follow him and to make fishers of men is the most foundational call in my life.” Using his spiritual gifts of leadership and exhortation, Dale is a great coach and cheerleader for those involved in the arenas of life.
Dale and his wife Kathy live in Highlands Ranch, Colorado and serve their home church, Cherry Hills Community Church. They have two grown children and a caring extended family.