Act Like Men

Men’s Leadership Podcast

#45: The Father’s Blessing – Featuring Dr. Chuck Stecker

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November 2, 2023

Show Notes

So many men are missing a father’s blessing. “You cannot give what you do not have” says Dr. Chuck Stecker. It has developed into a curse today resulting in fatherlessness, broken homes, and has landed our country in a place of catastrophic proportions and a massive decline in our culture.

What is the antidote that is required to be able to receive a blessing? The term came from the Old Testament when we see Esau cry out that he also wanted what the eldest son had received from his father. In the Old Testament only the eldest son could receive a blessing.

Then we move to Jesus Christ in the New Testament and what is being said to Him as he rises up out of the water of baptism: “This is my beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased”. Since we are co-heirs with Jesus, it is now available for all of God’s children. God the Father, through earthly father’s and spiritual fathers, are the conduit of the Heavenly Fathers Blessing. We bless our sons and daughters. We are doing what God does for us — He blesses us as His son, for who He has created us to be, not for what we do or contribute to this world or to the Kingdom.

It is our job in our life to understand what the wound is in our life that causes us to medicate in some manner. In almost every case, it can be tied back to our father’s lack of a blessing. Repeating the question from the first session: What did we have to do to gain our fathers approval? When did your father tell you he was proud of you? Was it what you did, or who they are? We see our earthly father is how we view our Heavenly Father. If our dad picked at us, then we see God as a picky God. If we felt loved for who we are, we can accept God’s love.

Understand the main step is to get to the issue, rather than treating the symptoms.

Smalley and Trent in their research project and resulting book, lay out Five Key Steps to a Meaningful Blessing:

  1. Meaningful Touch – a touch that says I love you
  2. Spoken Word – words that foster a relationship
  3. Attach High Value – assign great value and belief in the person
  4. Forsee a Special Future – paint a picture of a special future
  5. Commitment to That Future – demonstrate your commitment to that future

Fathers remember you cannot give what you have not received. It is never too late for you and for your children. Even if you have never received it, God still wants to bless you either directly or through a spiritual father.


  • Dr. Chuck Stecker – Men of Honor, Women of Virtue
  • Ralf Garborg – The Family Blessing
  • Jay Cookingham – Sonship, Restoring a Man’s Identity
  • Smalley and Trent – The Blessing

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About Wendell Morton

Rev. Morton graduated from Western Evangelical Seminary with a BA in Religious Education and a Master of Counseling Psychology, Rev. Morton was in full-time ministry for 17 years with both small and large churches. He spent four of those ministry years with Promise Keepers. He was the the US representative to PK Canada – serving on the PK Canada Board.

Wendell also spent 23 years in Corporate America. He built and led sales teams that worked with very small businesses and other groups that worked with Fortune 500 companies. He is gifted at helping identifying the next generation of leaders as well as helping those around him being successful.

Rev. Morton has a passion to help pastors and church leaders build growing churches. Having men come alongside the vision of the pastor, build a dynamic team, create a plan, and execute the model of “each one brings one” has been proven effective for more than 2,000 years. This approach is a great way for every local church in North America to grow while helping men better understand biblical manhood.

About Dale Eudy

As an advocate for ministry to men, Dale Eudy brings a combined background of leadership skills developed in the marketplace along with senior leadership experience in the Church.

Following military service, Dale earned his undergraduate degree and gained valuable systems and operations experience working for two prominent Fortune 50 companies. Responding to God’s leading in his life to focus on leaders in the body of Christ, he went on to complete seminary and served as a pastor for 16 years in a large church in the Denver area and as a denominational leader at the regional and national levels. With his background, Dale knows the heartbeat of the local church.

Dale’s passion is the discipleship (spiritual reproduction) of men. That passion is what drew him to partner with Men’s Ministry Catalyst. In his words, “The simple call of Jesus to follow him and to make fishers of men is the most foundational call in my life.” Using his spiritual gifts of leadership and exhortation, Dale is a great coach and cheerleader for those involved in the arenas of life.

Dale and his wife Kathy live in Highlands Ranch, Colorado and serve their home church, Cherry Hills Community Church. They have two grown children and a caring extended family.