Act Like Men

Men’s Leadership Podcast

#44: The Father Wound – Featuring Dr. Chuck Stecker

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October 19, 2023

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“The insidious impact of the father wound in our nation is the greatest issue facing our culture right now. It is impacting marriages; entire families and it will impact generations yet to be born.” Dr. Chuck Stecker.

Biblical understanding — what this wound looks like and the impact of not having it. Jacob stole the blessing of his father. It says that when Esau heard his fathers word, that Jacob had already stolen the blessing, he cried out with a loud and bitter cry and asked his father to bless him as well. In the Old Testament, that was not an option. This was before Jesus comes and now all sons and daughters can be adopted in the family of God and receive not only their fathers blessing with multiple children, but also know they can have the blessing of their heavenly father.

Even society has identified with the alarming fatherlessness in America, the gender dysphoria that has arisen, One Ivy League university identifies that one of four students struggle with the sexual identity. This can all be traced back to the removal of the father from the family and the inability to bless his children due to his own struggles. The father is responsible for affirming the identity of their children of who you are, and whose you are.

How do you know if you believe you have received your fathers blessing? One simple question can help you with that: What will it take to gain the approval of your father? Is your value fully attached to what you do (always trying to earn approval) verses who you are (adding value to those around me out of an overflow of identity — not to seek their approval).

The danger all of this creates is how we see and relate to our earthly father; is how we see and naturally relate to our Heavenly Father. If we have a significant father wound it is difficult to relate to loving, forgiving and Holy God, who is much different than even the best earthly Father. We assume that God must be a certain way because my earthly father was that way.

In our world today we see so much that is anti-manhood and labeled as toxic masculinity. When men step into our role as a Godly man, we have the opportunity to change the world in which we live.

MMC encourages you as man, whether you are pastor, leader of men in your church, a businessman, or a man in any role who is considering how God is calling you and wants to use your life, and to commit to being part of a group of men, who will:

  1. Connect with a small group of men who will consistently meet and encourage one another in the faith
  2. Learn to trust these men and become vulnerable with your own version of a Father wound and allow their love for you to help heal this wound
  3. Allow these men to unconditionally love you and help you reframe how you see your heavenly father and how you gain your identity by knowing and accepting that you are a love child of your Heavenly Father.
  4. Be accountable to these men as they are to you to not settle for the cultural norms, but be a man who makes a difference, starting with your family.

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About Wendell Morton

Rev. Morton graduated from Western Evangelical Seminary with a BA in Religious Education and a Master of Counseling Psychology, Rev. Morton was in full-time ministry for 17 years with both small and large churches. He spent four of those ministry years with Promise Keepers. He was the the US representative to PK Canada – serving on the PK Canada Board.

Wendell also spent 23 years in Corporate America. He built and led sales teams that worked with very small businesses and other groups that worked with Fortune 500 companies. He is gifted at helping identifying the next generation of leaders as well as helping those around him being successful.

Rev. Morton has a passion to help pastors and church leaders build growing churches. Having men come alongside the vision of the pastor, build a dynamic team, create a plan, and execute the model of “each one brings one” has been proven effective for more than 2,000 years. This approach is a great way for every local church in North America to grow while helping men better understand biblical manhood.

About Dale Eudy

As an advocate for ministry to men, Dale Eudy brings a combined background of leadership skills developed in the marketplace along with senior leadership experience in the Church.

Following military service, Dale earned his undergraduate degree and gained valuable systems and operations experience working for two prominent Fortune 50 companies. Responding to God’s leading in his life to focus on leaders in the body of Christ, he went on to complete seminary and served as a pastor for 16 years in a large church in the Denver area and as a denominational leader at the regional and national levels. With his background, Dale knows the heartbeat of the local church.

Dale’s passion is the discipleship (spiritual reproduction) of men. That passion is what drew him to partner with Men’s Ministry Catalyst. In his words, “The simple call of Jesus to follow him and to make fishers of men is the most foundational call in my life.” Using his spiritual gifts of leadership and exhortation, Dale is a great coach and cheerleader for those involved in the arenas of life.

Dale and his wife Kathy live in Highlands Ranch, Colorado and serve their home church, Cherry Hills Community Church. They have two grown children and a caring extended family.