Act Like Men

Men’s Leadership Podcast

#41: Why Men Hate Going to Church – Featuring David Murrow

Episode cover, guest David Murrow
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September 7, 2023

Show Notes

Everyone says the church is male-dominated, and while that may be true in the pulpit, the pews are pink!! The average church in America is 61% female. Where are the men? That is the question that caused David Murrow to write the book Why Men Hate Going to Church.

In his book, David Murrow looked at this topic from a sociological space, not a religious space or spiritual space. He is looking to focus on the environment in which you are drawing or not drawing men to your church, and ultimately to a drawing or not drawing your men to Christ.

How do we build a sermon for men? No longer are we living in the lecture hall era, which is what many of our churches have been for so long. Two key ideas to get to men quickly: Get to your point right away. Most men are looking for a reason to stay engaged or a reason to check out. Your first few seconds determine that outcome. Second, use a visual that gets men to draw in. When the visual aid is visible during the sermon and men are waiting to see what you are going to do with this. It creates interest and excitement. The visual aid ties the concept to a visual to which men will relate, understand the concept concretely, and are much more able to integrate it into their life. The world is very good as this on our phones with Social media and even TV and movies are now part of the fast-moving scene. How do we capture the audience, especially the men, in a few seconds, on the weekend services?

A secondary issue, although no less important is how we reach our boys today. Usually today, the children’s ministry is boy-friendly. Lots of fast-moving activities like object lessons, and strong visuals keep the boys attention. When we get to the student’s age (teenage years), some of that changes. Now we have long worship sets, much less visual stimulation for the boys, now teens, so they either become uninterested or drop out. In addition, when the boys need strong men around, there is now an influx of young women becoming youth pastors. Male students do not relate to them as they would a man – even a young man. Consequently, we are losing boys in many settings like this. Take the challenge and focus on reaching our young men.

David Murrow’s website has many options to help you evaluate your church to see how you measure up to at least be gender-neutral as opposed to a feminine context where so many churches have been. In addition, he has a list of Free Stuff, as well as other books, courses, and ideas to evaluate as you are committed to reaching men in your church and community.

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Book: Why Men Hate Going to Church , by David Murrow

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About Wendell Morton

Rev. Morton graduated from Western Evangelical Seminary with a BA in Religious Education and a Master of Counseling Psychology, Rev. Morton was in full-time ministry for 17 years with both small and large churches. He spent four of those ministry years with Promise Keepers. He was the the US representative to PK Canada – serving on the PK Canada Board.

Wendell also spent 23 years in Corporate America. He built and led sales teams that worked with very small businesses and other groups that worked with Fortune 500 companies. He is gifted at helping identifying the next generation of leaders as well as helping those around him being successful.

Rev. Morton has a passion to help pastors and church leaders build growing churches. Having men come alongside the vision of the pastor, build a dynamic team, create a plan, and execute the model of “each one brings one” has been proven effective for more than 2,000 years. This approach is a great way for every local church in North America to grow while helping men better understand biblical manhood.

About Dale Eudy

As an advocate for ministry to men, Dale Eudy brings a combined background of leadership skills developed in the marketplace along with senior leadership experience in the Church.

Following military service, Dale earned his undergraduate degree and gained valuable systems and operations experience working for two prominent Fortune 50 companies. Responding to God’s leading in his life to focus on leaders in the body of Christ, he went on to complete seminary and served as a pastor for 16 years in a large church in the Denver area and as a denominational leader at the regional and national levels. With his background, Dale knows the heartbeat of the local church.

Dale’s passion is the discipleship (spiritual reproduction) of men. That passion is what drew him to partner with Men’s Ministry Catalyst. In his words, “The simple call of Jesus to follow him and to make fishers of men is the most foundational call in my life.” Using his spiritual gifts of leadership and exhortation, Dale is a great coach and cheerleader for those involved in the arenas of life.

Dale and his wife Kathy live in Highlands Ranch, Colorado and serve their home church, Cherry Hills Community Church. They have two grown children and a caring extended family.