Act Like Men

Men’s Leadership Podcast

#34: Isolation – A Lurking Danger

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June 15, 2023

Show Notes

This topic is especially subject to us being passive or active. The topic is ISOLATION. Some men, slowly drift into isolation without realizing it. For other men, they make a deliberate choice to isolate themselves and it is important to understand the emotional trap and consequences that isolation gives to us.


In his book, Overcoming Barriers Men Face, Dr. Jim Grassi, the founder of Men’s Ministry Catalyst wrote about the barrier of isolation that each man may have to face at some point in his life. In his book, Jim begins his challenge of overcoming the barrier of isolation by reminding us that throughout all civilizations, the worst level of incarceration for the punishment that you can give someone is solitary confinement, and yet when it happens in a man’s life we often fail to recognize the pending evil that isolation can bring.

Looking back over our lives, the most unproductive and difficult times in our lives are in isolation. It can come when we may think we are doing the right thing but have moved away from the relationships that may be the most opportune times.

So What

Dr. Jim Grassi cautions that even though we may be surrounded by people in our roles in business or ministry, we can still be isolated by choosing to keep people at a distance. He also concedes that solitude for a time is biblical in its practice and Jim mentioned Moses, though tending sheep mostly alone for 40 years before leading the children of Israel out of Egypt. Jesus too, sought solitude at times to prepare his heart for what was to come in his ministry. So the discipline of solitude is not what Jim, or Scripture for that matter, warns us about. However, we are warned that when solitude turns into isolation it becomes a threat to our personal growth and our relationships with Christ and others.

Now What

We are reminded of the foundational point that we first must Recognize Who We Are In Christ. We must remember that we are part of God’s family, and individually and collectively we are the body of Christ. This is where we are to serve others and use our unique gifts to build up the body of Christ. Second, we must Actively Seek Regular Fellowship as found in Hebrew 10 where we are encouraged to spur one another on toward love and good deeds and not give up meeting together.

Third, Jim reminds men to Love Our Wives as Christ Loves His Church. You can’t do that in isolation from your wife or the church. You must be actively engaged to love at that level. Fourth, we need to Seek Out a Christian mentor and find a Godly man of deep character and then give him access to speak into our life. Last, we are challenged to Meet Regularly with a Spiritual Partner, someone who wants to grow in Christ.

These key points of application will not guarantee that we will not face the barrier of isolation, but when we do, we will have a way of overcoming isolation and neutralizing its threat in our lives.

Personal Application from this topic:

  1. In what ways have you isolated in the past? What drove you to isolate? What dangers did you experience in isolation?
  2. Which of the strategies for preventing and breaking free from isolation spoke to you most in this podcast? What will you do as a result?
  3. Which three of those strategies will you implement to keep from isolating?

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About Wendell Morton

Rev. Morton graduated from Western Evangelical Seminary with a BA in Religious Education and a Master of Counseling Psychology, Rev. Morton was in full-time ministry for 17 years with both small and large churches. He spent four of those ministry years with Promise Keepers. He was the the US representative to PK Canada – serving on the PK Canada Board.

Wendell also spent 23 years in Corporate America. He built and led sales teams that worked with very small businesses and other groups that worked with Fortune 500 companies. He is gifted at helping identifying the next generation of leaders as well as helping those around him being successful.

Rev. Morton has a passion to help pastors and church leaders build growing churches. Having men come alongside the vision of the pastor, build a dynamic team, create a plan, and execute the model of “each one brings one” has been proven effective for more than 2,000 years. This approach is a great way for every local church in North America to grow while helping men better understand biblical manhood.

About Dale Eudy

As an advocate for ministry to men, Dale Eudy brings a combined background of leadership skills developed in the marketplace along with senior leadership experience in the Church.

Following military service, Dale earned his undergraduate degree and gained valuable systems and operations experience working for two prominent Fortune 50 companies. Responding to God’s leading in his life to focus on leaders in the body of Christ, he went on to complete seminary and served as a pastor for 16 years in a large church in the Denver area and as a denominational leader at the regional and national levels. With his background, Dale knows the heartbeat of the local church.

Dale’s passion is the discipleship (spiritual reproduction) of men. That passion is what drew him to partner with Men’s Ministry Catalyst. In his words, “The simple call of Jesus to follow him and to make fishers of men is the most foundational call in my life.” Using his spiritual gifts of leadership and exhortation, Dale is a great coach and cheerleader for those involved in the arenas of life.

Dale and his wife Kathy live in Highlands Ranch, Colorado and serve their home church, Cherry Hills Community Church. They have two grown children and a caring extended family.