Act Like Men

Men’s Leadership Podcast

#30: Finding Hope in a Dark Place, Featuring Dr. Clarence Shuler – Part 1

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April 24, 2023

Show Notes

Feeling hopeless or depressed is not uncommon. The pandemic created more isolation since we were sequestered in our homes and working in our home offices. This isolation can lead to feelings of hopelessness as we lose control of so much around us. Even without the pandemic, the statistics, in general, are that there have been more feelings of a lack of hope — or stages of hopelessness. Ever been there? Are you there now? Please keep reading and listening.

Part One: Dr. Shuler shares his own life story and what God allowed him to experience with him during his journey from hopelessness to being able to see hope again. Remember Dr. Shuler is also a counselor in addition to being an author and speaker.

He shares an episode that sent him to the bottom emotionally. He wanted to withdraw and pull away from everything that was part of his life. He admitted that he was wanting his self-worth to be validated by the amount of money that could have been coming his way.

In the middle of it all, he maintained some routines that were vital to getting unstuck and moving forward. In addition, he had a friend who reached out and after initially pushing away, he admitted he needed help and accepted the help of this friend.

Three Questions to ask yourself:

  1. What is the thing you lean on to validate your worth and value? Is it money, titles, cars, houses, etc — we all have something that we are prone to lean on apart from God’s grace?
  2. If you are in the middle of this battle right now — what are the routines that you might consider maintaining to help you in the journey through this battle? Keep going to church, stay engaged with family and friends, working out, etc.
  3. If someone reaches out to you how will you respond? If no one reaches out to you, will you reach out to someone you trust?

To reach Dr. Clarence Shuler, or buy one of his books:

About Dr. Clarence Shuler

Dr. Shuler is the President/CEO of BLR: Building Lasting Relationships. He’s been married to Brenda for over 37 years. They have three adult daughters. They conduct marriage, men’s, women’s, and singles seminars internationally. In 2020, Brenda and he were presented the Family Life Weekend to Remember Marriage GetawaySpeakers of the Year Award. Dr. Gary Chapman and he speak together at The Five Love LanguagesDate Night and Life-Changing Cross-Cultural Friendships events. Dr. Chapman and Clarence co-authored Life-Changing Cross-Cultural Friendships: How You Can Help Heal Racial Divides, One Relationship at a Time. His newest book, Finding Hope in a Dark Place: Facing Loneliness, Depression and Anxiety was released in December 2022. Clarence speaks to youth, college students and singles about friendships, dating, biblical sex, pornography and sexting. God uses him to help couples gain victory over affairs. His Maximizing Difference (diversity) training is in constant demand. He’s authored 10 books.


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Find his latest book on Amazon:

Finding Hope in a Dark Place


About Wendell Morton

Rev. Morton graduated from Western Evangelical Seminary with a BA in Religious Education and a Master of Counseling Psychology, Rev. Morton was in full-time ministry for 17 years with both small and large churches. He spent four of those ministry years with Promise Keepers. He was the the US representative to PK Canada – serving on the PK Canada Board.

Wendell also spent 23 years in Corporate America. He built and led sales teams that worked with very small businesses and other groups that worked with Fortune 500 companies. He is gifted at helping identifying the next generation of leaders as well as helping those around him being successful.

Rev. Morton has a passion to help pastors and church leaders build growing churches. Having men come alongside the vision of the pastor, build a dynamic team, create a plan, and execute the model of “each one brings one” has been proven effective for more than 2,000 years. This approach is a great way for every local church in North America to grow while helping men better understand biblical manhood.

About Dale Eudy

As an advocate for ministry to men, Dale Eudy brings a combined background of leadership skills developed in the marketplace along with senior leadership experience in the Church.

Following military service, Dale earned his undergraduate degree and gained valuable systems and operations experience working for two prominent Fortune 50 companies. Responding to God’s leading in his life to focus on leaders in the body of Christ, he went on to complete seminary and served as a pastor for 16 years in a large church in the Denver area and as a denominational leader at the regional and national levels. With his background, Dale knows the heartbeat of the local church.

Dale’s passion is the discipleship (spiritual reproduction) of men. That passion is what drew him to partner with Men’s Ministry Catalyst. In his words, “The simple call of Jesus to follow him and to make fishers of men is the most foundational call in my life.” Using his spiritual gifts of leadership and exhortation, Dale is a great coach and cheerleader for those involved in the arenas of life.

Dale and his wife Kathy live in Highlands Ranch, Colorado and serve their home church, Cherry Hills Community Church. They have two grown children and a caring extended family.