Act Like Men
Men’s Leadership Podcast
#13: I’ve REALLY Messed up – Now What Do I Do? | Ft. Craig Cato
The Reality: If you live long enough, chances are you are going to mess up somewhere along the line. Many people blame Adam for messing up the world, but I am here to tell you that if he had not messed it up, I would have. With the divorce rate in America the same both inside and outside the church, with more than 50% of men struggling with pornography, with the infidelity rate as high as it is today, with things at work happening that may cause you to lose your job, with serious health issues arising out of not taking care of ourselves over the years, and over spending, there is plenty of things that we helped create in our life that can cause us to say: “I’ve Really Messed up – now what do I do?”
I want to say we are not going to beat anyone up today – make anyone feel guilty about your past – men get enough abuse during the course of time as it is. Today is all about offering a path forward for you, your men, or someone you know who has really messed up.
We are honored to have with us: Craig Cato – Craig Cato’s identity is disciple of Jesus. His vocation is licensed counselor, primarily focusing on marriage and family issues. Craig walked away from his computer engineering career 23 years ago to write a book on surviving depression in your spouse, something Craig experienced for 3 years in the mid 1980’s. Today Craig lives in Hayden Idaho (north of Coeur d’Alene) and is involved in his church’s marriage mentor ministry. At 68, Craig says retirement is nowhere on the horizon.
Today we are going to get real where many of us have been, or unfortunately where some men (pastor’s, men’s leaders or not) are headed right now. We live in a fallen world, and we are prone to sin, prone to offend, tempted to take shortcuts, and we desire to be self-serving. I am reminded in Ephesians 6:12: “For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.” If we fight this battle alone without God, without friends, and without humility, we will fail at some point.
Today, since our guest is primarily a marriage and family counselor, we will focus our time on close family relationships.
Intro questions for Craig:
Tell us a little more about you: Your Family? What motivates you? What is your passion? Hobbies?
Stepping back for just a moment: Beyond what was mentioned in our introduction, what other thoughts do you have that help us better understand why men (which is our topic) mess up?
Building a path forward:
- What is the first things a guy should do if he messes up badly?
- Confess to God – Authentically, single mindedly, and ask God to forgive and provide a pure heart regarding this particular sin.
- Recommit to abiding in Christ by reading the Bible daily and being active in Christian fellowship.
- Remember that God’s response to fully turning from the sin is to forget you ever committed the sin. Guilt after being forgiven by God is either from Satan or from ourselves.
Anything else he should do on the spiritual front?
About Wendell Morton
Rev. Morton graduated from Western Evangelical Seminary with a BA in Religious Education and a Master of Counseling Psychology, Rev. Morton was in full-time ministry for 17 years with both small and large churches. He spent four of those ministry years with Promise Keepers. He was the the US representative to PK Canada – serving on the PK Canada Board.
Wendell also spent 23 years in Corporate America. He built and led sales teams that worked with very small businesses and other groups that worked with Fortune 500 companies. He is gifted at helping identifying the next generation of leaders as well as helping those around him being successful.
Rev. Morton has a passion to help pastors and church leaders build growing churches. Having men come alongside the vision of the pastor, build a dynamic team, create a plan, and execute the model of “each one brings one” has been proven effective for more than 2,000 years. This approach is a great way for every local church in North America to grow while helping men better understand biblical manhood.
About Dale Eudy
As an advocate for ministry to men, Dale Eudy brings a combined background of leadership skills developed in the marketplace along with senior leadership experience in the Church.
Following military service, Dale earned his undergraduate degree and gained valuable systems and operations experience working for two prominent Fortune 50 companies. Responding to God’s leading in his life to focus on leaders in the body of Christ, he went on to complete seminary and served as a pastor for 16 years in a large church in the Denver area and as a denominational leader at the regional and national levels. With his background, Dale knows the heartbeat of the local church.
Dale’s passion is the discipleship (spiritual reproduction) of men. That passion is what drew him to partner with Men’s Ministry Catalyst. In his words, “The simple call of Jesus to follow him and to make fishers of men is the most foundational call in my life.” Using his spiritual gifts of leadership and exhortation, Dale is a great coach and cheerleader for those involved in the arenas of life.
Dale and his wife Kathy live in Highlands Ranch, Colorado and serve their home church, Cherry Hills Community Church. They have two grown children and a caring extended family.